Seeing a sad guy, it is often easy to guess what is the reason for his upset - the girlfriend said let's stay friends. Men of any age who have little experience of communicating with the opposite sex, who have not yet learned to understand women, often react to this phrase with total depression: they go into a binge, cry into a pillow, complain to friends and relatives, try to return their beloved, etc. The phrase “let's stay friends” is perceived as a catastrophe of a universal scale. Although, if you use your brains, nothing terrible really happened AT ALL. Below I will talk about how easy and simple it is to survive DOD (let's stay friends) and start living a full, fun life after a couple of hours or at most days after this phrase.
The girl said let's stay friends. What to do
If the girl said let's stay friends - you don't need to panic. In a pickup truck, this phenomenon is familiar. It is conventionally called "The girl announced DOD." Believe me, this will happen more than once in your life, but after reading this article, you will be ready for it.
If a girl told you “let's stay friends”, it means that you are no longer attracted to her as a sexual partner, or she did not consider you as such at all. It is important to understand this information in this way and accept it courageously. It is clear that this is painful, unpleasant, but a bitter truth is always better than a sweet lie - remember that.
The second thing you need to accept is that you won't be able to get her back. Not because it is unrealistic, just if she dumped you once, dumped you a second time, or will manipulate you all her life, and this is humiliating and wrong.
Third, your brain is now inadequate. He is frantically looking for reasons why his beloved left you, and options for how to get her back. You will not find the reasons - do not try in vain. She can tell you that she does not feel a spark between you and you will try to light this spark, when in reality she has just been sleeping for a week with another man, whom she likes an order of magnitude more.
Why can't you return your ex
The option of her return should not be considered at all. First, it is humiliating and unworthy of a normal man. Secondly, now it will cost you a lot of time, resources and nerves, and all for what? For her to snort and twirl her nose? Usually guys try to get the girl back - they spend a lot of money, don't sleep at night - but they can't get it back anyway. Just because she fell in love with another guy. Then the guy, after a while, usually calms down and realizes that it is unrealistic to return her and begins to live his own life. So isn't it easier to skip all this suffering and waste of resources and immediately start living a normal life, burning energy in another, more useful way, for example, through sports. It is a mistake to think that your situation is unique and your woman is the only one. Believe me, every man after breaking up with a girl is convinced of this, if he has little experience with women.
Practice shows that some guys, spending a lot of resources, return exes after other guys. Or they themselves then return, because their lover abandoned them or something did not work out there. Some in tears ask for forgiveness, others, on the contrary, return like this, like they do you a favor (especially if the guy did not stop trying to return it). But all the same, such couples then break up and do not last long, since the guy realizes (if not immediately, then over time) that he was betrayed, exchanged, and returned purely because he is a backup and convenient option. For a man, this is humiliating. It is better to endure the pain once than to feel humiliated all your life and allow yourself to be pushed around.
What exactly to do if the girl announced DOD
If a girl told you let's stay friends, you have to do only two things: urgently, and start meeting other women. This is enough to overcome your attachment to your ex, at least the first symptoms of her in just a couple of hours. Sitting at home and loading, going to a bar, crying to friends, etc. Absolutely forbidden! This will only exacerbate an already bad mood.
If you have been announced DOD, urgently go and meet 3-5 other girls. It is optimal to do 10 approaches to strangers. It is better not to concentrate on one now - after the breakup, it will seem worse than the former. Try to get to know many at once. The first 2-3 approaches can be difficult for you - approach through force. Breaking up with the woman you love is a situation that gives you a lot of energy. Use it correctly - step over your fear and unwillingness to meet, and seduce other women.
The second is sports. Work out in the gym for at least 2 hours every day. You can go to football or do long distance races. But it's even better to do boxing or wrestling - there you will quickly knock all the crap out of yourself.
If you start to actively get to know girls, do at least 5-10 approaches a day, you will forget your ex - if not in a couple of hours, then in a week for sure. Not in the sense that you no longer remember who she is and what you had with her, just your feelings for her will cool down and you will start treating her like an ordinary girl. Many guys do not want this, as their heady feeling of love and the hope of returning their beloved is warming them. But remember that one feeling is always superseded by another, so that intoxicating love is provided for you in any case, only with another, better girl.
- No alcohol. Drinking, even in moderation, only intensifies suffering and provokes you into inappropriate actions. Suppress the inner discomfort of breaking up with sports and sex with other women;
- Other girls. Do not look for the next girlfriend for life immediately after parting with your beloved. Now your task is to drown out the experience with sex. Just fuck for your pleasure with many women - with all those who are on you and you more or less like them. Enjoy your freedom - no serious relationship;
- No suffering. The former is not the best and not the only one. An ordinary girl, in some ways worse than many others. Remember how you treated her before you met. What has changed since then? She gave you and was gentle, spoke words of love? And the other may well do it. Moreover, she can be with a sexier figure, and cooking is tastier. A new partner is always better than the previous one - this is an axiom. Otherwise, after the breakup, people would never again build relationships with anyone.
Do not worry, you will also have a beautiful woman, and happy love, and family life, and stability. You just need to make an effort and all this can happen in a couple of days. Or years - if you continue to sour for the former. There are actually a lot of good girls. In your city, on your street, there are dozens of them every day. Start meeting other girls, do it a lot and often, and you will see that there are many pretty young ladies around, much better than your ex, who will appreciate you much more than she does.
A fairly large number of people at least once in their lives have heard the phrase: "let's stay friends." Such words can be very unsettling and can cause a significant blow to self-esteem. Is it worth it after that to put an end to your communication or is it just a temporary obstacle, you need to figure it out.
The foregoing may imply several scenarios for the development of your relationship:
- Complete lack of any intimacy.
- A person culturally proposes, he does not see himself at all.
- The opportunity to part, but on good terms.
Reasons such a decision could be great amount... Sometimes such words sound like a bolt from the blue. May be you were so in love that they just did not notice existing problems... Now the main thing is to understand what happened and when, that the relationship ceased to be romantic or even stopped altogether.
If these words came from a girl
Unfortunate 3 words can be heard at any time throughout the relationship. It is always worth remembering that the fairer sex unusual figurative thinking which is sometimes perfect inexplicable and incomprehensible... In this case, many can use the expression about feminine logic. Quite often, the fairer sex thinks for a long time before making a final decision. So as not to offend you and not to cause a wave of negativity, the phrase “let's stay friends” comes to the rescue.
What to do to change everything?
To try to renew sympathy you need to carry out a whole operation. The first thing to do is break all contacts with this person for at least six months, if you are culturally thrown. This concerns not only personal meetings, but and phone and correspondence, try not to even answer incoming calls. Overwhelm yourself in order to achieve the desired effect in the future. There is no full guarantee that after this time, the relationship will resume, the main thing is that you will change and do first steps into a new life.
Take care of yourself perhaps change the style of dress, communication and increase the circle of friends. Improve yourself, attend trainings, start playing sports, any changes will only increase the chances of reciprocity. When you next meet, partner certainly will notice your reincarnation... When your relationship has smoothly flowed into a friendly channel, disappear for a few weeks, and see if the person will be looking for a meeting with you.
If interest in you has renewed, now it's time to dictate your own rules. Make the person regret that they once rejected you, for example, make him jealous... Show that there are many people around who also do not mind starting a relationship with you, and at this moment remind you that you are, what these scenes are for. Only do not overdo it so as not to alienate the person forever.
Another option
This method is not suitable for inexperienced people, in order for it to work, you need to have willpower. It consists in systematic appearance and disappearance... When you hear the phrase: "Let's stay friends", agree. Especially, if on the horizon there is a new candidate for the role of the second half. It's just that if you take the previous technique, there may be nowhere to return, so you can't lose connection. Here you need to include a "friend", and without any possible hints of something more. Friendship should not be sluggish, try to spend as much time together as possible, for example, go to exhibitions, find a common hobby... During this time, a strong attraction should arise.
Now let's move on to the second stage. When you notice interest to your person: constant calls, invitations to walks, then everything is done correctly... Now you need to leave, and completely disappear for a while... During this time, you can change, for example, change something in the image. It is also necessary to bring a loved one back to life unexpectedly. Just come visit or call and take for a walk as if nothing happened. When contact is not severed, you need to immediately try to transfer the relationship into a new channel, stop playing friendship... Touch it casually, take it by the hand, any action will do that will bring you closer together. At such moments, you will definitely feel whether your partner is ready to rise to the next stage of your relationship.
And also these "do not touch me" - this is an attempt not to seem an accessible woman and to absolve herself of responsibility. It is very important for a girl not to seem easily accessible, it is important for her that she does not give (it does not matter sex or), but that they take from her.
Let's stay friends what to do? Above, we figured out why this happens, and now let's talk about what can be done. Ras already you found yourself in such a situation. The situation needs to be corrected, and not slowly.
Let's clarify again - you can hear the words about friendship from a girl when time goes by, and you do not have sex with her, do not take her. That is, your communication does not go into another, bodily channel. Moreover, the more dates you had without sex, the more chances each time you will not have sex with this girl at all!
These chances of getting nothing grow exponentially. In general, understand that if you do not have sex with a girl after the third date, then you most likely lost, and even if after that there will be sex anyway, then it is not you, but the girl who will be the main one in the relationship, and this, to put it mildly, is bad.
The longer you have been friends, the less likely you are to leave friends. Men come to my trainings, and some of them tell me - "You know, I've been friends with one girl for five years now, how can I fuck her." I am certainly shocked by such words. I've been friends with my friend Alexander for about five years too, but I wonder how I can fuck him!)))). But we will talk about how to get out of a protracted friendship in other articles, and now ...
Trust me, she will resist very hard and try to put you in your place. Yes, there is a certain risk here - either she will become your girlfriend, or you will completely lose her. But understand that you have already lost her if the girl offered to be friends.
What you need to do is call her and insist on meeting her. And this is not a movie or bowling, not a walk in the park, but a cafe, with sofas so that you can sit next to (this is extremely necessary). This cafe should be intimate, not loud music, dim lights ...
And there you begin to tell her that you really like her as a woman and that you are not going to be friends with her. But at the same time, your words should not be just empty, they should be supported by actions.
You just take her, turn her towards you and kiss her on the lips. Once again I tell you - there is nothing to lose! It breaks off - then you forget about it and that's it. And friendship is nonsense, you will dream about her, and she will meet with another, and you will see it. Is it really better?
On my YouTube channel and here in the "Video" section, you can find videos on how to touch a girl on a date.
And no matter how your hands shake with excitement and fear of losing her, you still begin to touch her. Take yourself by the balls, you're a man!
The best solution - If the girl offered friendship and said let's stay friends, then my personal opinion is that the situation is generally lost. Try of course, but I don't want to give you much hope. Most likely, seventy percent that you have already lost this match, perhaps even eighty, so you need to think,.
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In this article, you learned what to do if the girl said let's stay friends. Conclusions can only be made by you, man.
The phrase of the beloved girl becomes completely unpleasant: “Let's stay friends”. This can happen both after a long relationship with her, or even before their occurrence. At any moment, the girl can decide to leave, which will be a bolt from the blue for the guy. How to return your beloved girl who no longer wants to be with you?
This question remains relevant, since in our time partings are common. You meet a girl, you love her, you cherish her, and she suddenly says that she wants to remain friends. It happens that a girl takes courtship for a long time, even lets her in, and then says that she is breaking up.
Looking back at past relationships, it is difficult to find the reasons why the girl says the phrase: "Let's stay friends." It is foolish for a girl to say such a phrase to a guy who is clearly not in the mood for friendly relations with her. It is even more stupid for the guy himself to immediately succumb to emotions and pretend that he can easily live without a girl.
If there is a desire to return the girl, despite the offensive words, then we will consider this topic in more detail on the site.
What shouldn't you do if the girl says, "Let's stay friends"?
After the relationship broke up and the girl says: “Let's stay friends,” internal anger and resentment arises. How can you remain friends after what happened between you? If you have not cooled down with feelings just like your ex-lover, then you are probably worried about the question of what needs to be done to bring her back. Now we will discuss the topic of what not to do when the girl dumped you. After all, the most important mistake can be made not on returning, but on reacting to parting.
The most common boy behaviors are:
- Complete ignore. The guy pretends that he is also satisfied with the breakup.
- Running after the girl, gifts and compliments. If the girl pushes the guy away, then the guy’s behavior when he intensively looks after her will be overkill.
These are two extremes that will not lead to good. Let's take a closer look at all the mistakes that should be avoided after breaking up with a girl:
- Give gifts, compliments, apologize. This is called humiliation, when a girl turns a guy off, and he continues to look after her like a faithful dog. The girl will be annoyed by the behavior of a guy who does not respect himself and is ready to crawl on his knees in front of her, if only she would come back to him.
- Constantly call her and write messages. Exes cannot be in constant contact if they do not have a continuing relationship. The girl left you, left. It's time to stop calling her, writing messages, especially of a love nature. This is another way of humiliation that will only alienate the girl from you.
- Cry in front of her. This can happen both in the direct sense of the word and indirectly. If a guy shows himself to be unhappy and needy, it only infuriates. Even more annoying is the situation when the guy begins to threaten: "If you do not return to me, then I will kill myself." The girl can either laugh in her face, or feel sorry for the guy and return to him, but not for long and not seriously. In any case, the relationship will disintegrate even faster, and the girl will finally be impossible to return after this.
- Declaration of love. The girl who dumped the guy does not need his declarations of love in any form. This will annoy her even more and alienate her from the guy. She can keep in touch, but not give in to love words.
Considering the mistakes of the guys, we can note another most common one, which already modern young ladies in their right mind and mind will not be led to. Let's talk about it further.
How to get your girlfriend back: don't say that everything will change
Psychologists say that you need to reconsider your behavior if you want to return your beloved girl who left the guy. However, the mistake will be the behavior when the guy, just after hearing about his bad behavior, without thinking it over, starts throwing promises: “Forgive me. This will not happen anymore. I promise you". Don't say things will change. Why?
If you promise on emotions, without serious intentions to change something in the relationship, then you will get along with your beloved for a while, but she will quickly leave you as soon as she notes for herself that you have deceived her. If you have promised, then you must definitely change it! If you don't change anything, then the girl will leave you and the next time she won't listen at all.
You can promise again that you will do anything to change your bad behavior. But now the girl will not believe your words, and she will do the right thing: you promise without conscious and serious intentions and desires to do so. Your goal is to get your girlfriend back, to win, not really improve your relationship.
No matter how much you promise, the girl won't believe you, because she already has a real experience of incontinence. It's the same as if a girl promised you to lose weight if you married her. What is the connection between marriage and losing weight is illogical and incomprehensible. As much as you would not believe that a girl will really lose weight after the wedding, she will not believe that your relationship will improve if she comes back to you.
Young people, more mature men and women, too, keep up with them, known for their fleeting love. Today they love, but tomorrow they no longer feel this feeling. But it so happens that the partners met for a long time, and then broke up for some reason. After that, one of them decides to return the former lover or beloved, but does not know how to do it.
How to get your love back? First, you should understand that if you were loved before, but then fell out of love, then some circumstances contributed to this. There is love in your partner, but it is constantly extinguished for some reason. So, you just need to do so that love for you kindled again.
Secondly, you should understand the reasons that extinguish your partner's love. These reasons served as your parting. For what reasons did you break up? What made your partner leave you? Identify and start fixing them.
Do not make one of the mistakes people who are trying to regain their old relationship: they run after their loved ones, but at the same time they do not work on what served as their separation. But former partners look to see if people change. And if they don’t change, then they don’t see the point in renewing the relationship.
Your task is not only to return your loved one, but also to show him that you have become different: what was previously a problem is no longer there, you have changed. You need to work through all those problem areas because of which you constantly quarreled with your beloved, and change them. Your ex should see that by renewing the relationship with you, she will not face again what previously irritated you or led to conflicts. Therefore, change yourself and, as if by chance, show your new qualities to your former partner. You should not talk about them, but demonstrate them in appropriate situations. And when the ex sees your changes, she will want to return to you.
Renew the feelings in your loved ones by eliminating your mistakes and the causes of your quarrels. Make your former lovers want to come back to you, not because you were persistent. In the first case, they will stay with you for a long time, because they themselves expressed a desire to be near. And in the second case, happiness will not last long - until your first quarrel.
Consider tips on how to get your girlfriend back in order to be able to resume a relationship with her:
- Agree with her proposal. She says, "Let's be friends." Agree! It will be a shock for her, whereas she expected you to disagree and start running after her. In such a situation, when you break up, she will be interested in what you are doing, who is next to you, what distracts you from the thought that she broke up with you.
- Don't call her first, wait for her to call you. And in most cases, a girl who dumped a guy herself soon dials him on the phone to find out about his affairs. Here you can already control the situation. For example, you might say, "I'm busy, let's call you later." There is no need to talk about past relationships or feelings. Communicate on neutral topics, such as: how are you doing, what are you doing, what's new, etc.
Try not to tell her everything, it is better not to finish speaking. Let her understand that she is not getting answers to her questions. At the same time, do not communicate with her for a very long time. As soon as there are pauses in the conversation, you should end the conversation. It is better to do this on your own initiative.
- Start dating another beauty. She must be really beautiful, or at least interesting to you. It's even better if your ex finds out that you are starting a new relationship. Not only did she initiate a break in relations, which is why she lost a smart and interesting guy, but he still does not cry for her, but is passionate about something and even found himself another girl.
Often the girls leave so that they can run after them. Calm the ardor of your ex by giving her what she herself tried to achieve - loneliness away from you.
- Get to a party where she and your mutual friends will be. It's good if the girl is forced to see you in practice. It's good if by this time you have changed yourself in the sense where she was unhappy with you. At the same time, do not try to run up to her and immediately tell her that you have changed. She herself must see that you have become different - the way she wanted to see you.
Chat with all people at the party. Pay as much attention to your ex as to your other friends. Communicate with her friends, and with your friends, and with her. At the same time, behave like an acquaintance who does not think about her in the least and does not miss her.
You can add "pepper" in order to bring your new passion to the party. Take care of her and be a gentleman so that the ex-girlfriend is simply dumbfounded and jealous. She must see what she has lost, especially when "all the good" goes to some other girl.
Outcome
Girls are emotional creatures. Today they want to stay with the guys as friends, and tomorrow they already regret their decision. This effect is achieved when guys do not run after those who left them, but also continue to live, meet new girls, and even get better. The result of all the events - and the desire to return the old relationship with the one who herself destroyed them.
Let's not forget about the mistakes that many guys make. If you do them, then you can forget that the ex will return, because with every unsuccessful meeting, she will understand that she definitely does not need a squishy and crybaby.
